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aliljaded 53F
23944 posts
8/22/2019 4:28 am
Losing Someone

Grief can destroy you --or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for granted the love and laughter of each day, and didn't allow yourself to consider the sacredness of it. But when it's over and you're alone, you begin to see that it wasn't just a movie and a dinner together, not just watching sunsets together, not just scrubbing a floor or washing dishes together or worrying over a electric bill. It was everything, it was the why of life, every event and precious moment of it. The answer the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes you the deeper beauty of it, the sanctity of it, you can't get off your knees for a long time, you're driven your knees not by the weight of the loss but by gratitude for what preceded the loss. And the ache is always there, but day not the emptiness, because nurture the emptiness, take solace in it, is disrespect the gift of life

Dean Koontz, Odd Hours


"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
8/22/2019 9:49 pm

    Quoting drmgirl622:
    Embrace the grief always for it will bring comfort in days to come...…..
Thank you

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
8/22/2019 9:48 pm

    Quoting 1uncommondom:
    In time
    we find less grief
    in the losing . .
    and more enjoyment
    in the knowing,
    the loving and
    the time we had.
    Trust me the waves
    will still come and
    they will overwhelm
    you . . but you will come
    to embrace that because
    you know they are still a
    part of you that time cannot
    erase.
That is so true, thank you.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
8/22/2019 9:47 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you so much, my friend.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


Spanks4thefun 60M

8/22/2019 7:23 pm

It is helpful to read this. Music became painfully one stage y
yesterday when the lyrics of , "You were always on my mind"
were playing.

Better to have loved and lost..😂


1uncommondom 77M

8/22/2019 7:21 am

In time
we find less grief
in the losing . .
and more enjoyment
in the knowing,
the loving and
the time we had.
Trust me the waves
will still come and
they will overwhelm
you . . but you will come
to embrace that because
you know they are still a
part of you that time cannot
erase.


drmgirl622 68F  
25880 posts
8/22/2019 6:03 am

Embrace the grief always for it will bring comfort in days to come...…..


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
8/22/2019 5:38 am

    Quoting Gottin_Himmel:
    If I could only call him ... .

    You know how it goes.
Yes, that's exactly how it goes.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
8/22/2019 5:37 am

    Quoting Raven_GB:
    Profound grief is the price we pay for profound love. Whilst I wish I could escape the endless, empty yearning for her, the silence when I call her name and hope against hope for an answer that I know can never come, I would not trade a day of our love against an end to the sorrow I feel at her passing. My grief is a badge of honour of the love that I fell for her now, then and always. It has already been 7 years.
Thank You for putting it so eloquently I'm so sorry for Your loss.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


Raven_GB 63M
854 posts
8/22/2019 5:19 am

Profound grief is the price we pay for profound love. Whilst I wish I could escape the endless, empty yearning for her, the silence when I call her name and hope against hope for an answer that I know can never come, I would not trade a day of our love against an end to the sorrow I feel at her passing. My grief is a badge of honour of the love that I fell for her now, then and always. It has already been 7 years.


Gottin_Himmel 69F  
2635 posts
8/22/2019 4:46 am

If I could only call him ... .

You know how it goes.


gopats1 61M
148 posts
8/22/2019 4:39 am

Grief breeds strength!


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
8/22/2019 4:33 am

Grief comes in waves. Every time I think I'm past it, it rears it's ugly head once again.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”



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