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likesmatureones 55M
0 posts
5/15/2019 5:13 am
Ladies..do men steal your light..( serious question)


I remember this odd episode of friends where the girls ran around with this feminist self help book about men stealing women's light.
So ofcourse we all laughted it off..

But im wondering about it...was i stealing a Domme's light?.

I mean i have a big personality..i do enjoy talking about the lifestyle..
But i wonder if my problems with my ex domme stemmed from me taking center stage. She was very new to Domming..we knew one another..we had alot of lifestyle stuff in common so we got together.

But it seemed like i pushed the narrative. I mean im not pushy or needy. But just in our emails i would be one to broach a lifestyle topic.

I just assumed i needed to because she was new to that end of the domination.

I feel like i failed as a sub to her because i stole her light. I didnt just wait and let her develope organically.

Mind you i wasnt pushy..lol..but now looking back i did push without being aware i did..i was being leo..
Instead i should have been a complete sub

I think when males step back women step forward. He cant be in that space if he wants her to shine.

likesmatureones 55M

5/15/2019 5:14 am

Yep who knew friends was so wise


masterwilson2 61M
29 posts
5/15/2019 6:11 am

U are correct saying when men nacks women come forward. As sex and romance is needed for all


Gottin_Himmel 69F  
2635 posts
5/15/2019 6:39 am

This happens a lot, both inside and outside the boudoir/dungeon. I think it's one of the reasons I changed my identification from "submissive" to "Switch" for the nonce.

The Dom I admire most, aka the nice man, is probably the smartest guy in any room. He doesn't push the fact, and is very good at asking open-ended questions and then Listening. In my eyes, that makes him the gold standard for male desirability.

Subtlety is a virtue. Man 'splaining is not.

Bear with me here. Menfolk are hardwired to "fix" things for their women. And we appreciate that! On the other hand, not everything needs fixing. That's subtlety for you. LOL.

How to fix it? I dunno. Perhaps rely more on your "gut" and less on your brain. Ha! This comes from a woman notorious for overthinking nearly everything.


likesmatureones 55M

5/15/2019 9:05 am

I think the worst thing is I wasn't being a dick and doing it consciously..
It just sorta came out that way.

So I need to ponder ways to avoid it


likesmatureones 55M

5/15/2019 5:29 pm

I agree omega angel..thank you for your awesome input😁



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