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likesmatureones 55M
0 posts
5/18/2019 7:04 am
A sub controlling the narrative


A friend clicked on a blog about this female led relationship couple. Who now have cranked out a few books and are using the blog as a self promotion.

My friend told me the mistress in the blog sounds like she is really a man/ a man writting the blog pretending to be a woman.

I replied the blog is too cerebral to be a man. Im thinking it is a case where the submale is doing the pushing in the relationship...

By this i mean....the hubby/ bf is horny...wants to try bdsm.
He keeps on working on her until she finally gives in.

She thinks okay..this is cool..because she gets to be in complete charge...she gets to control the pace. Their bdsm lifestyle is what she wants it to be.

But he will keep on pressing...trying to bring more ideas into the relationship.
Shes in control but she is being indirectly influenced by his desires..
Till you get to the point where she has indeed taken complete control of the sub...but he still pushes for more..

Its sorta like cuckholding..usually the hubby will approach the wife with the notion. At first she usually is reluctant.
But the more he pushes the more she is willing to try.
So perhaps she goes to a bar and meets a few men.
She luvs the attention but isnt ready to sleep with others.
The wife comes home excited and shares the adventures with the hubby.
So eventually she sleeps with other men..the hubby then encourages her to share the play by play/ or actively watches.
He still is the pushing the narrative..cause a real cuck wants to be cut off sexually..he only wants to live vicariously through her adventures.

So sure it looks like the woman is empowered...she is getting the sex,attention she desires..
But there was always alot of influence by the hubby.

I call it the push..whereas i find this completely wrong..it does happen. A male that does give up power to a dominant has to realize s/he may run with it..no push needed..lol.
But then he gets what he gets..he may end up in a cuck situation...which is cool...but only if its the dominants idea

likesmatureones 55M

5/18/2019 7:11 am


chaosattractor 58F
142 posts
5/18/2019 7:43 am

its classic topping from the bottom. had someone try that on me. shut that cap down really quick. it's simply manipulation.


likesmatureones 55M

5/18/2019 8:38 am

Yeah it may be simple manipulation....
But some people do want that push..

Classic example is my ex Domme and me..she wanted to Dominate a male..but in reality she really just wanted to dominate one male..me..
So cool...she was new to Domming and asked my imput.
So i gave it.. but at times it felt like i was driving the cart.

She enjoyed being a Domme...but either was scared, didn't know what to do...or didnt really think this out properly.

Anyway my push sorta drove the cart off the road a few times and we broke up numerous times.

But i also felt without a push we still would have been stuck at square one..waiting at the train station.

Looking back i realize the push is wrong..



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