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rosaenaluin 65F
9913 posts
5/25/2018 2:38 pm
A dominant..., what is it?


Or maybe it is better to start with, what is it not!

Because there are soooo many, many fine examples of behaviour of minor men,
men! not dominants!

that most likely would be called bully behaviour, threaten behaviour,
very, very insecure men with a strange view on women in general....
maybe even fear women..... or hate them.....?

A dominant?
For me, that person, has self power, self control over most parts of his life
or is very hard working toward that.

Has a job, has his bissnizz together.
Has a stable emotional internal life.....
Knows a thing or two about life.

Knows that not everybody walks the same walk of life..
Knows that Intelligence is not the same as having a University degree.

Has overview on the things that catch his attention.
Is a good observer.

Has patience,
is interested in the WHOLE person.
Wants to get to know that person, áll of that person.
Has a sense of humor that is not hurtful and does not degrade, belittle the other person.

A dominant will always respect your bounderies.

A dominant can handle a strong willed woman, with a mind of her own.
he might even like that.
He does not feel intimidated by a strong woman, on the contrary.

Most dominants i met, did like to talk with women, about all kind of subjects, like to listen to her, exploring her mind, her mindset.
Like to see/feel her inner power... force.....

A strong willed, or even opinionated woman, knows what she needs, knows what her limits are, knows her self.
Knows what she has to offer, and by that i dont mean her body cavitys. thankyouverymuch.

Brings something to the negotiation table.
She will be powerfull/ strong in the dynamic too.

A dominant will look for character traits that gives him some indication about her personality, her mindset.

He knows, that if there is a match, there is time enough to get to know her body, her reflexes... her needs.
He knows that.

A dominant first would like to explore your mind.
Find out, who you are.

Find out, if you are an emotional stable person, or some mental nut case.

Likes to find out, if there is an emotional agitation, how quick you will bounce back...

A dominant who wants a relation, the emotional style D/s, or Master-slave Dynamic, will be open.
Not totally without bounderies, but selective open with you, about his life and his wants, needs.
In moderation.
As he expect from you too.
It, he is a human being, in all aspects.

He wont ask anything from you, that is not acceptable or violate your privacy, in any stage of the contact.

So, all those geezer on here, who starts with all kind of demands?
delete and block! or report and block!

All those minor men on here, who demands all kind of sexual information?
Ignore, block, and report.

All those men, who dont show any form of respect? Who are rude, not openly and willingly give information about themselfs?
ignore, block and report.

A dominant man is just a man, but then again, maybe not just, he has some special traits, character traits.
His presence is felt, noticed, just by being.
Without him being aware of that... most of the time.
He does not have to ACT or BEHAVE a certain way, he just IS.
He IS.

A dominant is capeble to admit when he was wrong, made a mistake.

A dominant person is always on the outlook for the better good for all concerned,
wants people to become a better version of themselfs, as he aspire for that himself too.

A dominant is not some egoistic self centred ego boosting moron, who is only capable to "think" with his Dick.....

A dominant is capeble of showing his emotions, all his emotions, not only his anger or hate...

Some people get real nervous around a dominant man....
Feel a dislike for that person.

It makes me feel very aware of me, being mé, i get a bit nervous... and very, very calm, quiet , something changes inside me... shifts

I get in a very strange mood.... breathless too.... confused, happy, afraid.... silence....
I arrived.

A dominant makes the contact stable enjoyable, growing, safe.
Makes you feel comfortable in this contact.

My thoughts, my experience with the real deal,

rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/25/2018 2:44 pm

play act "dominants"; the sexual bedroom 'dominants'
players, swingers, are a totally different species,

with most of the time a total different set of morals, or lack of....

Totall other ball game!


VovimBaghie2030 55M  
261 posts
5/25/2018 3:55 pm

And honestly, most of the so-called women on here pretending to be true submissives are just a bunch of attention seeking cunts.


olderdaddyforyou 68M

5/25/2018 5:19 pm

Great post Rosa. I also need to agree with Vovim


methinks 64M
28 posts
5/25/2018 7:08 pm

It's vice a versa say one thing but really mean the other


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/26/2018 12:27 am

VladVampireLord,
well, if that is part of their dynamic? Why not?


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/26/2018 12:28 am

angie0706,
Thank you!


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/26/2018 12:29 am

Maxcat! Right on! no roleplay act at all! he just IS.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/26/2018 12:37 am

VovimBaghie2030,
First, lets stop with the whole "twue sub/dom" thing..
there is no such thing!
That is what play doms use against someone, who does not fit his fantasy play...

If you look for an easy lay with some kinky play, and like to call that a D/s sexplay what ever... ? you can find such person here too.

If you want real commitment, real connection, person to person?
You have to look hard and wide....

If you want a person to look like what you think a sub should be?
good luck, that is fantasy.

real life is a big investment.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/26/2018 12:40 am

soccerdad69,
I agree with you! all the drama.... also from the socalled dominants.... so tiresome...

there is this chatroom ;Old school BDSM, there is no drama, there you can talk and ask about all things BDSM wise....


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/26/2018 12:43 am

olderdaddyforyou,
Indeed, for a lot of women this site is also just a place to play act the submissive role,(or what they think that is or might be?!)
to get what she wants; free attention, free kinky sex..
Just like all the socalled "dominants".... same difference.

Thanks you.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/26/2018 12:45 am

submissivepet36,


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/26/2018 12:47 am

methinks,
Oh, absolutely!
That is what create all the drama, say one thing, never able to do anything!
honest is what works best. both ways.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
5/31/2018 12:00 pm

lejarle,

thank you, always nice when people appreciate my view, my writing......


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
6/23/2018 1:15 pm

StormyFutarani,

whow, you must have a very wise grandmother?
thanks for visiting my blog,



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