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rosaenaluin 65F
9914 posts
7/21/2018 12:30 pm
The difference,


The difference;

When i am in the vicinity of a man with dominant character traits,
It makes me feel quiet, at ease, i am able to get in contact with my vulnerable side....
open myself to him.....
I come in a certain mindstate...

I am not conscious aware this is happening-
I only know i feel safe, appreciated, understood, at home, secure....i can come and try to unwind.....
Breath, cry, feel... at ease....
Feel whole....

When i get in contact with those bedroom-sex-game only "doms",amp;
Online or at a munch?

I get totally restless, my irritation level goes through the roof - without any outside evidence of something going wrong/on.
I get very, very irritated.

I feel offended by their "attention".
Because i know their "attention" is not real.
It is totally NOT about mé.

They want (to abuse) my body.

Also their ability to hold a decent conversation is sooo very lowww,
The sexual innuendo is just down right filth, nasty.
that is just an insult to my intelligence i wont endure.

That makes me feel angry, violated almost by their unwanted 'attention'.
I Dont Feel Safe, AT ALL.

My survival mode gets in working order.
Trying to locate the source of danger.
And distance myself, rapido!!

Or,
Make the enemy powerless, because most "play-gamedoms" are verbally not really developted.
Have no knowledge about the depth of this submissive feelings/needs.

To put them in their place is very easy.
Like taking candy from a baby.

IT IS ALL A GAME, YES?? To them, it is.....

The difference;
Just only in APPEARENCE.
thruthfull, honest, open, accepting, curious.
in character, substance...........

Or little boys ego games.....

rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
7/21/2018 12:35 pm


jenny14 75T  
90121 posts
7/21/2018 1:23 pm

rosa

It is wonderful you know what you want and are strong enough NOT to accept less!!


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


MissLadywood 51F
6195 posts
7/21/2018 4:07 pm

Just because their needs differ from your own doesn't mean they're terrible men.
The 'enemy' seriously ???
An arsehole is an arsehole .... what his bdsm leanings are have nothing to do with that.
You are giving way too much energy to the arseholes that you come across.

Life So Short, The Craft So Long To Learn


IAmMichaelURKnot 62M
14380 posts
7/21/2018 4:36 pm

    Quoting MissLadywood:
    Just because their needs differ from your own doesn't mean they're terrible men.
    The 'enemy' seriously ???
    An arsehole is an arsehole .... what his bdsm leanings are have nothing to do with that.
    You are giving way too much energy to the arseholes that you come across.
Like.

I remember now.


heartofmush 55F
7884 posts
7/21/2018 4:55 pm

i gotta go with missladywood on this one, but mike beat me to it.

The cut worm forgives the plow. W. Blake, Proverbs of Hell


MsSwanger 35F
15964 posts
7/21/2018 6:02 pm

It is good to know and feel the difference.


MsSwanger
Journey into my soul.


TheGentleD0M 55M
4082 posts
7/22/2018 1:21 am

Though I agree with what you transcribe here, and have myself stopped going to mashes because of the invasions of the barbarians, I have a suggestion for you. If you were to add to your discussion the fact that the type of "hit and run" male you are talking about is 99% of the time simply a sadist rather than a Dom, I believe you would have more universal agreement.

The sadist hides behind being a Dom because the number of people openly willing on first meet to entertain someone who deeply desires to harm them is very small. The Sadist-as-Dom is cowardly, and his deceptions are certainly worthy of condemnation and identification as an enemy.


tgd


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
7/22/2018 2:31 am

jenny,

thank you,


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
7/22/2018 2:41 am

MissLadywood;
It is their rude behaviour i am talking about, there less then human approach, over more then 20 years now.....
Somehow i am a bit fed up with all those rude little boys trying very hard to áct like a man....

This is just an analise to the how and why, i am not interested in sexonlydominance,vanilla men, witch to me, means just vanilla sex with a twist; boring....

They are not able to grasp the depth of a Master-slave, 24/7 living under his guidance..... is ......
To them it is just a physcial act,

vanillas.... pffffff.....

You dont have to agree with me, you dont have to 'like' my blog, you dont have to understand my point of view, you just ignore it, like i do with some other bloggers too.
easy peasy.
no hard feelings.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
7/22/2018 2:48 am

TheGentleDom;

I do not agree with you.
most are just plain rude insecure vanilla wannebees, who are afraid of women in general....
Maybe with some mental issues, witch you could call sadists.... i am not into mental sadism.

Sadism is NOT about harming the other,
Sadism is NOT ABUSE.

It is about being able to give exactly that, to that one person what she or he, really, really craves in their lives....

Dominants like women, love women, cherish women
Although they might not really understand us, they do love, like us, as company as lovers, as human.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
7/22/2018 2:51 am

MsSwanger,
It is, it absolutely is!

I live and you learn, dont you?


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
7/22/2018 2:53 am

you live and you learn, i live and i learn, LOL


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
7/22/2018 3:21 am

angie,

indeed, time and time again, being verbally abused, by those 'socalled d's, gets to you, in the end.

Their totall lack of and ability to self-analysis their own behaviour is shocking and a sign too.

This is just an analise about the difference between the real deal or the wannebees bedroomdoms.....

Who 'think', by 'offering' you their dicks, makes them dominants.
LMAO LOL!
pathetic.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
7/25/2018 8:24 am

MrMindMe,

Thank you.

I will and do my best to live up to your suggestion.


celtdragn 53F
283 posts
7/26/2018 7:37 am

love your writings, and totally agree..a true dom it is in the energy and presence they possess...it is not always in what they say it can be as simply as a look it is just part of them...

Fake doms well I feel the same defense mechanism kick in and as MrMindMe said I walk away and let them find other prey....life is short...find what you need one who kindles that fire for you both.Huge hugs.


rosaenaluin 65F
10834 posts
7/26/2018 9:39 am

celtdragn,

Thank you,

Yes! their energy & presence !

Since i changed that first line at my profile, it seems the fake doms are able to read ánd understand at the same time!
Other wise it is just a matter of ignore and delete.

Hug you right back!



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