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The mind
The place it all begins and ends.

Ever wonder why someone grins?
Posted:Dec 10, 2018 2:18 pm
Last Updated:Dec 12, 2018 6:55 am

People wondering about me today I am sure.
Get me off the runway!
Posted:Dec 10, 2018 3:38 am
Last Updated:Dec 12, 2018 6:56 am



So very excited to get my butt to Virginia.

Even if they got snow, has no power.

I have everything I nedd to keep warm!

Todays the day I go to Yay!

Just a little excited.
The fairy tale you never hear about.
Posted:Dec 9, 2018 1:27 pm
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2018 2:18 pm

It has been the longest days, week, month.

In life we don't always get to have whatever we want exactly when we want it sometimes we have to wait. Right now while I'm waiting on is the plane that leaves me to the most amazing partner I could have ever found.

If someone would have told me that when I came back to write my blog that I would have stumbled across this amazing man who literally feels me and every way possible and keeps me happy and content all day long from across the hall in Alt, I would have said you're full of shit that is not possible you do not meet your destiny over the interweb.

But it did lead me to him and in my heart of hearts in the truest truth of the deepest part of my soul I know that this man and I are meant to be. He is my best friend he is my partner he is my loving dominant and more importantly he is the man that I am madly deeply in love with he is the man that my body aches for emotionally and physically.

He is the man that I cherish he is the man that I give my loyalty to for him only and only ever for him. So while I'm going stir-crazy this week and I am going out of my mind trying to keep myself sane the truth is that some things are worth the wait.

If I had to live all of the hardships that I have lived in the last 10 years to leave me up to this point in my life to know that I am ready and willing and able to be with someone in to be committed to someone fully happily and devoted to him then I would do it all over again and again and again.

No relationship is going to come easy anyting easily gained is easily lost and while we have connect it so easily our distance will not be easy and it has not been easy up to this point six months plus in and I feel like I have lived five years yes it does feel that long being apart from him.

In spite of it all in spite of every feeling I had trying to think that this may be fantasy that maybe it is not reality being in his arms confirms to me that this fantasy the dream the one that need that I have always craved and want it as someone else I have found in him and in his arm s I know that my dream is now my reality and tomorrow I prepare to take the flight that leaves me and to that reality.

Dream big and reach for them always. Your destiny is in your hands.
Plane no climbing wall needed
Posted:Dec 9, 2018 9:35 am
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2018 3:32 am

The truth is.

I want to start and end My days with YaYSmile.

A few will not love my decision to move.

Unfortunately, Its not changing my mind.

My heart belongs in VA and I'm fortunate enough to be able to do so.

SO i am....

One more sleep til we take the first few steps to changing our lives.

A beginning of a very exciting journey.
Christmas like BDSM some self care help
Posted:Dec 6, 2018 7:42 am
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2018 2:25 pm

Quinn’s 12 Tips for Beating Christmas Blues
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Quinn Norton
Dec 24, 2014

It’s almost not enough to say I love Christmas. I frickin’ love Christmas. I just about always have a great time. My Christmases are full of gifts and food and goofy singing. Sometimes there’s tears and cuddling and playing. Sometimes it all falls apart into giggles. But people general enjoy themselves and have wonderful memories. People have asked me how I do it, how my Christmases are so active without being stressful.

The answer is simple: the rules of good Christmas are the same as the rules for good kink.
Whether it’s Grandma carving the turkey, or Daddy paddling your ass, the rules for safely navigating intimate special occasions work the same. They’re about honesty, communication, and caring for your self and intimate partners. I’m not entirely sure if I learned kinky sex or Christmas first, but the similarities are obvious. They are both highly artificial situations focused on bonding and pleasure. They both put strain on the body, and they both can get into tricky emotional territory. But done right, both kink and Christmas can be transcendent and fun. So without Further ado,

How to get the most out of Christmas
Be selfish — no one but you is responsible for your happiness.
This may be surprising for many people who believe that presents or other people are responsible for their happiness, but like a sex party or a dungeon, it’s your job to seek out your own pleasures at Christmas. That three-year-old who is ignoring the expensive edutainment gift and playing enthusiastically with the box it came in is, in fact, doing it right. Boxes are pretty cool, and if there’s any time you’re allowed to play with one, it’s Christmas. Or a kink party.

2. Happy Christmas is based on negotiated consent, make sure people have space to negotiate for the Christmas they want.

It’s cool to have a plan, but it’s not cool to impose that plan on others without their consent. And when others are imposing, it’s cool to respectfully and lovingly decline something you’re not into. If you negotiate, you can almost always find festive activities everyone can enjoy.

3. You don’t have to be all into everything Christmassy, you can play with it.

Christmas is a chance to play with what you enjoy and who you are. You can dip into new activities or foods — you can put a little of that fruitcake in your mouth, if you dare. Everyone’s going to enjoy watching that. Or you can stick with what you know you like. You can do Christmas without having to partake in all the crazy things you see other people putting on or in their bodies and minds. (And whew, some of those sweaters/foods/religious rituals are pretty far out there.)

4. Check in with people about what you’re into and how you feel.

Christmas, like BDSM, can be ruined by too much meta-chatter about how Christmas is going. But a bit here and there can both show people that you appreciate them and keep everything developing well. For example, caroling, like spanking, is the kind of thing people are often really into or really not. It’s better to keep Deck the Halls and Good King Wenceslas in spaces focused on doing that with other people who are into that sort of thing.

And when it’s going well, let people know that. It can be as simple as a smile or a hug, or telling them. You don’t have to interrupt the scene, but the occasional signal lets your Christmas partners know it’s going well for you.

5. Let people know if you want to change activities.

Even if you were looking forward to it, if your Christmas activity isn’t as much your cup of tea as you thought, don’t keep doing it until you’re miserable. Sometimes that means asking others to move on to another activity, but usually it means letting people know you’re done with caroling and going to grab some ‘nog and sit for a while.

6. Feel free to make creative suggestions.

Is there something you’ve always wanted to try, or something that just came to you just now? Talk about it, see if people like the idea. Build present forts. Stack up all the empty boxes and take turns running through them. Wrap the children in garlands and let them put on a spontaneous Christmas play. Drape yourself in tinsel and run around being the Spirit of Christmas, if people are into it. (But like any creative kink scene, never do anything you’re not willing to clean up later.)

You can do these things as surprises without negotiation if you know your Christmas partners well, but be realistic about how they will be received. You really need to know someone well before you put the Christmas tree or a remote-control vibrator in an unexpected place.

7. It’s OK to ask for help.

Like a swinging harness or a fucking machine, some of the best parts of Christmas can be hard to do alone. If you need an extra pair of hands in the kitchen, or someone else to watch your overexcited children for a while, ask your guests, host, or family for help. It doesn’t mean you are giving up or aren’t as committed to cooking a goose as you thought you were, it just means that it’s easier and often more fun to involve more people in your festive activities.

8. Not everyone has to be into the same things.

And that is OK. Not everyone can even get into Christmas, for reasons that are entirely their own. Some people will always be happier with vanilla sex, and some people will never be comfortable with the Christian overtones. That’s what DVD box sets and bedroom doors are for. Never push someone into a Christmas scene they can’t enjoy. If they see that you’re having fun without requiring anything from them, that’s the most attractive argument for Christmas you can make.

9. It’s OK to take breaks, and for other people to take breaks.

In fact, if it’s going to last for a while everyone will have to take breaks, have alone time, and drink a lot of water. As anyone who’s been to an orgy knows, people take breaks when they need to, and rejoin later on with renewed vigor. Christmas is the same way — this is often a multi-day marathon, and you have to take care of yourself emotionally and physically.

10. Play with safe barriers.

Do not ruin yourself because you think Christmas is more fun that way. Think through the barriers in terms of what you can afford financially and time-wise. Spending months or years catching up on credit card debt or failed work commitments is not what we have Christmas fun for.

11. Don’t go too heavy on substances.

While a little something in the ‘nog can heighten the fun, you are in a complex and emotional situation. Stay cognizant and in control of yourself. Taking care of each other is part of Christmas, and kink, and both can be incredibly rewarding, but not when people aren’t able to engage with them fully.

12. When things go wrong, it’s totally fine to order pizza and watch movies instead.

There’s no point pushing Christmas (or sex) if it’s just not happening. There’s always next year.

Disclaimer I didn't write this Quinn Norton did.

but isnt this amazing
I think a change would do you good.
Posted:Dec 5, 2018 2:50 pm
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2018 2:26 pm

Ever want someone to change?

Even "love" someone but prayed they'd change and You could be happy with them??

Ever look back and realize how happy You are that it didn't happen?
Take some control for you.
Posted:Dec 3, 2018 1:32 pm
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2018 7:41 am

Ladies and gentlemen.

I see it so often.

Woman falling apart needing their Dominants to organize their life , their way etc

Can't change a light bulb without crying damsel in distress.

**Seriously** men too.

If this is where you are in life relationship is the least of your worry, maybe hire a life coach, get some conseling, see Your doctor. Make a move in bettering yourself.

Dominants submissive are not just for sucking your dick and helping your bills either.

When did this become about sorting life? It seems that having a life put together is few and far between which is unfortunate, yes shit happens but a partner isn't a scape goat You do to take control of your own life as well.

A partner will not just make life magical. Life is work. You get what you put into it.

It is great to have someone who supports you mentally, emotionally but you should be atleast stable in mind before you set forth down this road.
Excited much?
Posted:Dec 2, 2018 2:55 pm
Last Updated:Dec 10, 2018 2:29 pm

8 more sleeps

But whos counting?

I booked for three weeks.

I'm not sure its long enough

New Years in His arms is needed.
Only fools rush in?
Posted:Dec 2, 2018 2:52 pm
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2018 1:39 pm

Remmeber that one time You felt broken?
Like the skies were grey and the world just hurt to exist in?

How about the moment when You realized You loved the person You are dating it suddenly Your best friend is now Your boyfriend.

Remember that while we all move at our own pace not everyone moves as quickky at that pace.

Talking to Yay today. He laughed at how I would shrug him off and then I would come out of my molehill and I would talk to him and be captivated with him. I was unsure if I was ready and although I knew he was quite interested and that parts of me were interested in him I was not sure I was interested in anything more than a weekend fling.

He had been more than patient with me I was hot and cold and although he had no idea I was being cold at the time he had thought I was busy or at work or whatever I was pulling away his interest in me never dwindled he was very consistent and at some point he was persistent.

Eventually his consistency and knowing that while he was talking to me he was sharing honest truth even when things were not what he wanted to be pictured as he continued to tell me every detail of his life. The more I know the more I wanted him it was the effort that made me want to give him a chance at that point I had felt like people wanted a lot of things from me but most of them were sexual he had wanted to get to know me and get to know the deeper levels that make me.

And then I wanted to get to know the deeper levels that was him and at the very least I will have made a friend and to be quite honest at the time I was filling boredom as things progressed I went back to being hot and cold Jesse I had been hurt many times and I wanted to make sure that if I was going to hurt this time that this man should be worth it if this fails at least the time spent together was not wasted I addressed this to him and we discussed it and although it seems like years within a few weeks everything was running very smoothly. About three weeks in I realized that this man who I had been going on and off with that had seems like years I was deeply interested and I love this man.

I think that my point is well we want to be with someone and even when that someone wants to be with us we sometimes need to be patient and instead of trying to drag that person along we just wait and support and if the timing is meant to be or if the person is willing to take a risk they will come around they will see that the wait is worth it.

As Elvis once said Only Fools Rush In.

I am happy I finally made the choice to take a chance.
It turned out ti be great. Well I couldn't care less about any of the chances that I had missed because I was not ready because I have found yay do you ever wonder if maybe not having the patience to wait for someone who you were interested in but they were not quite ready was your greatest love that you lost.
Friendly is sometimes just friendly.
Posted:Dec 2, 2018 1:10 pm
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2018 1:34 pm

Loyalty and passion

Are maybe the most accurate words in describing me.

I would go to the ends of the earth for anyone I care for.

Some people wouks be surprised even with little interaction or maybe not as often as it should be. If i care. I am someone you can call.

Now, my mind today is thinking.

I am horribly flirty and friendly. Honestly mayeb more friendly and happy than I think flirty either way YaY knows this and its one of the things that draws him to me. He knows, no matter how much i flirt and carry on and joke..
My loyalty is to Him and Him only. Privately outside of even chat. I do NOT entertain anyone. Flirty is fine boundaries are boundaries.

Mind You He has never said a word I keep Him in the loop and I am a open book for Him, always. We have become that annoying couple that has access to each others everything. I love it. I really feel no need to check any of his private such as I trust Hik but alas I do have it. Shrugs.

Point being, when did banter and laughing become wrong? Its not cheating irs fun and games and laughter. I literally only chat online here to spread happiness and joy. I also come here for the same.

The happier I am the more I wanna share that with others

So my question is...if He doesn't mind. My Dominant, My heart and soul the man who occupies my mind, heart , body and soul. Why does anyone else??

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