Thunderstorms
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Posted:Apr 23, 2021 5:07 am
Last Updated:Mar 13, 2023 1:45 am 5281 Views
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When I think of him, I think of thunderstorms. The gravelly rumble of his voice, the lightning heat in his eyes, the stark brutality and simplicity of his possession as he ravages my body. His kisses were sweet like rain and his hands were everywhere, flooding me with sensation. The swiftness of the pain he gave me and the slow soaking pleasure that followed. The quiet, breathless aftermath as I lay spent and utterly replete in his arms as the rain pattered softly on the window.
And now I find myself wet and restless and aching at the first darkening of clouds and the first grumble of thunder. And I desperately miss the rain.
~ darkphotographs
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~Naughty
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Posted:Apr 22, 2021 4:38 am
Last Updated:Dec 23, 2023 1:07 am 5689 Views
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Nice Guys Finish Last
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Posted:Apr 22, 2021 3:02 am
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2024 1:36 am 5247 Views
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Nice guys finish last,” is an age-old truism that we’ve all heard at one point or another in our lives. But is it actually true? Don’t women want a man to treat them with respect, dignity, and to value them equally? Don’t we as feminists (and yes, I use the inclusive term ‘we’ because I consider myself to be one) demand these things? Don’t we desire to move away from the days when Neanderthals and chauvinists were allowed to run rampant when women had to suffer constant sexual harassment as a matter of course in the workplace?
Of course, we do, few things could be more self-evident than that.
So shouldn’t we be raising men to be ‘gentlemen,’ to be respectful, to treat women as equals? Shouldn’t men who strive to be kind, gentle, giving, and considerate be the ideal mates? And haven’t I, on this very blog extolled the virtues of the man who is hardworking, respectful, educated, and a good communicator?
Why yes, I have.
I mean, if that’s what women want, why wouldn’t good guys finish first all the time? As it turns out, they do. Overwhelmingly women seek mates who treat them as equals, with dignity and respect. They seek men who are faithful in their marriage and honest. So, the end of the post?
Not quite.
You see, for as much as women desire men who are all of the above for life mates, they seek something very, very different from their sexual partners. Ask any relationship therapist or clinical psychologist on the planet and they’ll tell you the same thing: women love their spouses deeply and sincerely – and they are (overwhelmingly) utterly unattracted to them sexually.
As it turns out, the scientific study of female sexuality is an extraordinarily complex subject. Stunning, I know. Professor Lorraine Dennerstein of the University of Melbourne determined that the loss of a woman’s libido as she ages is closely linked to a loss in interest in her sexual partner. Put another way: they desire sexless because they desire their partner less. Those same women consistently reported that they deeply loved and admired their partners.
So what gives?
Dr. Marta Meana, who is a clinical psychologist, Dean of the University of Nevada’s Psychology department, and widely respected researcher into women’s sexual functionality (and possibly more qualified to write about this subject than me), surmises that what drives female sexuality, above all else, is something that could be summed up best Cheap Trick’s 78 hit, “I want you to want me”: WOMEN PASSIONATELY DESIRE TO BE DESIRED.
That same soft, gentleman (not a gentleman) who she loves and feels secure around: the one who asks permission for everything, and is constantly obsessed with asking, “are you sure you’re ok,” that guy is safe, but he is not sexy. Sexually, a woman does not fantasize about being delicately considered, she wants to be passionately desired, chased, pursued, she wants to be the object of a man's unbridled lust – she wants to be conquered.
The real female orgasm? Being desired.
Now men, if you’ve ever read a harlequin novel (or watched an episode of True Blood), step back and ask yourself if that is not precisely the caricature that comes to mind? The strong, decisive, passionate, slightly dangerous, and lustful man. It’s almost comical how obvious the correlation is. Yet that same man who appeals to a woman’s lustful side isn’t necessarily the one who appeals to her desire for safety and comfort in a relationship.
And that’s the rub men: It will be your passion that brings her in, and it will be your security that holds her attention, but in order to develop her into that wanton slut you desire, who continues to explore with you, and to grow in her submission, you must first provide the platform for her to build on.
You must be the foundation, the rock upon which her temple to you is built. Education, practice, communication, discipline, dedication, decisiveness, love, passion, and accountability: These are your tools. You must be ever vigilant to maintain your passion for her. To constantly reaffirm her place in your sexual desires with action and inventiveness; to constantly reaffirm your commitment to her soul with strong communication; her mind with leadership; her heart with consistent love, unending patience, and understanding; and to your relationship with stern discipline.
Committing your life to these principles and their practice is what will ultimately separate you from the cuckold husband, or the douche-bag wanna-be doms. You must be both the lion, and lover. Do these things well, and her submission will blossom, fail and it will wither.
The choice ultimately is yours. Choose wisely.
~ Axiom
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Why We Write
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Posted:Apr 21, 2021 4:34 am
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2024 2:08 am 5153 Views
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“We write to heighten our own awareness of life. We write to lure and enchant and console others. We write to serenade our lovers. We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospection. We write, like Proust, to render all of it eternal, and to persuade ourselves that it is eternal. We write to be able to transcend our life, to reach beyond it. We write to teach ourselves to speak with others, to record the journey into the labyrinth. We write to expand our world when we feel strangled, or constricted, or lonely...When I don’t write, I feel my world shrinking. I feel I am in prison. I feel I lose my fire and my color. It should be a necessity, as the sea needs to heave, and I call it breathing.”
Anaïs Nin
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What I’ve Learned As A Plus Size Girl That’s Into D/s
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Posted:Apr 20, 2021 5:27 am
Last Updated:Jan 15, 2024 3:13 am 5903 Views
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1. I am not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay. Okay, ladies honesty time. I’m a bigger girl. I have thighs, hips, and a belly. Not everyone is going to be down with that. Those who do stick around are those who matter though. So what if you have a tummy and like to be tied up? I promise some guy somewhere will love every inch of you.
2. I don’t look like most porn photos. You know exactly what I am talking about. The photos that flood your feed, my feed, and even pictures you may have on your blog. Scantily clad women with svelte, slim bodies, flat tummy’s, skinny thighs, a tight butt, and not even a hint of cellulite. Let me tell you a little tip though…NO ONE looks like that. Even the models don’t look like that. Photoshop is magic.
P.S. This applies to men too. Not all of you have a six-pack, chiseled jawlines, and perpetually wear a suit…but guess what? You’re still hot!
3. I will get criticized for my size. This is no secret. I can’t tell you how many times I have been told I need to lose weight or “sorry but I’m not into fat girls”. Oh well, your loss. Trust me it sucks but as I said before someone will love your tummy, big butt, thick thighs, cellulite, and rolls. Someone out there thinks you are the sexiest thing to walk this earth.
4. I am just as sexy as anyone else. Plus size is beautiful. So what if you have a few extra pounds? ROCK THAT SHIT! Rock it so fucking hard!
5. D/s is for everyone! I’ve been told several times that due to being fat that I will never find a Sir/Daddy/Master. This is simply not true. I have found a few. I’ve been into D/s for about 4-5 years now and men find no problems with me being plus-sized. Well, some have but they don’t matter. Whether you are a size 2 or 22 D/s is for you.
6. Not all littles are “little”. I myself am not a little, I have little tendencies but I have seen so many pics on DD/lg blogs where again all the girls are tiny and cute. Well, guess what you can be cute and little and still have a tummy. Daddy will love you just the same.
7. Porn is unrealistic so stop stressing. Porn is pretty to look at and fun to watch but we all know that it isn’t real. It’s a fantasy. It’s a perfect dream scenario. It can be a guideline and a fun way to get ideas but it will never be 100% accurate. Laugh at your mistakes and imperfections. Sex is supposed to be fun. If you have never laughed during sex you are having bad sex. So what if you can’t twist your body like that? You are a person, not a pretzel.
8. Beauty is only skin deep. Cliché but true. There is so much more to beauty, love, and D/s than what your body looks like. Men want real. Honest, smart, funny, loyal, etc. Yeah, a hot body catches the eye but a charming personality ignites the soul.
9. Love yourself. Another cliché but an important one. Take it from someone who has been there. Dom’s HATE when their sub talks down about themselves. It hurts them in more ways than you know. 1. It hurts because they love you and you can’t see that you are gorgeous to them. 2. They feel like a failure. When a sub is down on herself a Dom feels like he has failed her. A Dom wants his sub to feel loved, cherished, important. If she is upset about how she looks he feels like he has let her down. Also, self-love is important because you know the saying “you must love yourself before you love anyone else”.
10. I’m a confident, sexy, beautiful, plus-sized submissive, and I KICK-ASS!!! Hell yes. I am plus-sized but so the fuck what? I’m hot as hell. I am smart, funny, sarcastic, strong, and one hell of a conversationalist. I am not what the porn industry would make you believe submissive looks like but I still kick just as much ass as those women do. No matter your size BDSM is for all. Be confident. Be sexy. Be beautiful. Stay Kinky.
asublissivelife1993~
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Something To Ponder
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Posted:Apr 19, 2021 5:16 am
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2024 2:08 am 5115 Views
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A thousand years from today, everyone you know will be long dead and forgotten. There’ll be nothing left of the life you love, no evidence that you ever walked this planet. That, at least, is what the fundamentalist materialists would have you believe. But suppose the truth is very different? What if in fact every little thing you do subtly alters the course of world history? What if your day-to-day decisions will actually help determine how the human species navigates its way through the epic turning point we’re living through? And finally, what if you will be alive in a thousand years, reincarnated into a fresh body, and in possession of the memories of the person, you were back in this era? These are my hypotheses. These are my prophecies. This is why I say: Live as if your soul is eternal.
~Rob Brezsny
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Like A Book
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Posted:Apr 18, 2021 8:14 am
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 3:57 am 5413 Views
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I wanna be loved like a favorite library book. I wanna be gone to again and again. I wanna be admired and adored like a thumb running across the taped-up spine of a beloved book. I want to be solace and comfort for those gentle few who need me but never keep me for themselves. I want to be unowned but never unloved, shared like a secret, dated like the slip taped to the front cover, and checked out by those who desire more of me. I wanna be under your arm and in your bed and gone and back again. Return me because you loved me. Return to me for the same reason.
~cowpokeprose
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~Saturday Sway
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Posted:Apr 17, 2021 5:06 am
Last Updated:Dec 17, 2022 2:14 am 6176 Views
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* Drive Night ~ Bruce Springsteen ~ The River * Crucify Your Mind ~ Rodriguiz ~ Cold Fact * Love Is A Losing Game ~ Amy Winehouse ~ Back Black * Baby Bitch ~ Ween ~ Chocolate & Cheese * Home ~ Sheryl Crow ~ Sheryl Crow * Kiss ~ Prince ~ Parade * May This Be Love~ Jimi Hendrix~ Are You Experienced? * Pusherman ~ Curtis Mayfield ~ Superfly * Say Goodbye ~ Dave Matthews Band ~ Crash * Eyes Of The World ~ Grateful Dead ~ Best Of the Grateful Dead
~Love Is A Losing Game
For you, I was a flame Love is a losing game Five-story fire as you came Love is a losing game
One I wished, I never played , what a mess we made And now the final frame Love is a losing game
Played out by the band Love is a losing hand More than I could stand Love is a losing hand
Self-professed, profound 'Til the chips were down Know you're a gambling man Love is a losing hand
Though I battle blind Love is a fate resigned Memories mar my mind Love, it is a fate resigned
Over futile odds And laughed at by the gods And now the final frame Love is a losing game
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Time
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Posted:Apr 15, 2021 5:46 am
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 3:57 am 6770 Views
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The future is fastidious and punctual. It keeps perfect time and arrives everywhere on the dot. In contrast, its slacker brother the past has no use for clocks or appointments. It comes and goes as it pleases in our memory, camping out wherever the hell it damn well wants to in there. Untrustworthy, prone to exaggeration, biased— you wouldn’t lend it ten cents, but it *sure* can be charming and seductive when it feels like it.”
~Jonathan Carroll
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The Way She Is....
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Posted:Apr 14, 2021 6:47 am
Last Updated:Oct 24, 2021 2:52 am 6818 Views
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She's the color in the world. Dangerous curves from a steady, sweeping broad stroke. My fingerprints graze her outline. She has hair that smells like coffee, Eyes like the night sky- dark and calm. Soft lips that tempt like honey and taste like depravity. She takes the abuse, the sadistic way I coat her canvas. Pretty colors and decorations adorn her and she wears them well.
With fingerprints on her throat and soft whimpers in my ear. She degrades herself with words, her value for my pleasure. Eager to please. Eager to be useful. She salivates with every strike of my hand, edging from the pain of my enjoyment. She strips and presents herself, a mess between her thighs. Her eyes begging me to let her taste what I've done to her.
She's my favorite flavor of sin. An intoxicated, masochistic junkie. She'll follow me everywhere, just to chase the chaos. And the chaos is loud, but I don't know how to love another way.
~depravityandchaos
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