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Inspirational Sayings
Posted:Oct 3, 2018 4:54 pm
Last Updated:Apr 12, 2019 7:46 pm

One of my pet hates is inspirational sayings. One of my mind games is turning them around or altering them. I think they make just as much or even more sense after.

Poverty can't buy happiness either.

Women are OK but you can't beat the real thing.

From mighty oak trees little acorns grow.

The carrot is mightier than the stick.

As ye reap, so shall ye sow.

The best way to get over one man is to get under another one.

The only thing better than an understanding woman is an underlying one.

He who is lost ….. hesitates.

A hard man is good to find.

If you think you are a wit - you are half right

I just hate intolerant people - they really piss me off.

Nostalgia is just not the same as it used to be.

Deny everything - it makes it easier to change your story if you to.

not a gynecologist but I don't mind taking a look.

The earth will inherit the meek.

The mind is like a parachute – except in the direst emergency it's better to keep it firmly closed and sit on it.

Time is on nobody's side.

If nobody was there to see, how do you know tree in the forest fell?

Cowardice is the better part of discretion.
Bad Employer
Posted:Apr 17, 2019 5:51 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2019 7:18 pm

No 1 daughter is a baker the local supermarket. This week she noticed that the rosters had been changed and realised it was to try to avoid paying so much statutory holiday pay over Easter. I wont bore you with the details. So she complained to her supervisor who said she was instructed by the store manager. Daughter said she would take it up with him, whereupon the supervisor backed down and changed the rosters back.

Now the supervisor is hyper critical of everything daughter does, trying to catch her on any little thing. That's what I find totally unacceptable. OK, they tried it on with changing the rosters, it didn't work, get over it and move on. The store was in the wrong or they never would have backed down. No need to carry a grudge. Their way they will alienate staff, erode any goodwill or enthusiasm for the job and end up with a staff of time fillers who turn up and do the bare minimum to draw their wage. It annoys me because it upsets people and benefits exactly nobody.
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Posted:Apr 17, 2019 1:26 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2019 6:00 pm

Yet another death from strangling in a sexual context, this time from the UK. In fact more than 20 women have died in the UK in this way in the past years. This one was apparently preceded by a fight, or what hotel staff perceived as a fight, so maybe there were elements of anger involved. The previous case I wrote of involved drugs and alcohol. Any of these factors will hugely increase the risk from such activity.

I would like to focus here on the legal system's attitude to this practice. All quotes are from retired US Superior Court Judge Eugene Hyman who is described as an expert in domestic violence and non-fatal strangulation cases and who, in 2008 became the first American to receive the United Nations Public Award.

On consent:

He described strangulation as being "on the edge of homicide". "How can you consent to what is the equivalent of playing Russian roulette?" "You can't consent to something that is that dangerous any more than you can consent to Russian roulette" " in my opinion the choking sex game thing … can't be legal." "If I were a judge handling a strangulation case and the defendant said 'my defence is consent', I would not permit the defence because in my opinion you can't consent to it,"

On custody disputes:

"My personal belief is that if you've got non-fatal strangulation and domestic violence and there's a child custody issue, in my opinion that means that the batterer should not be able to make decisions regarding legal aspects — in other words, what they go to, what religion, what medical treatment, all those kind of things, because that gives them power of control in terms of disagreeing with the other parent,"

So if you indulge in a little erotic asphyxiation, be aware that the courts are not likely to favourably upon you if you come before them for any reason. I believe a similar, although maybe less extreme attitude might greet anyone who is practicing any of the more extreme forms of bdsm. It will be considered as abuse. A little tying to the headboard with silk scarves might be winked at unless your partner turns against you, but anything that causes marks or injury of any sort, or is considered dangerous, is likely to count against you. It is not an understanding or accepting world there!
Democracy In Action
Posted:Apr 17, 2019 12:18 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2019 2:29 pm

Or is it the tail wagging the dog? I had a post all thought out ready to write but now I've had to totally rethink it. The NZ government has been proposing a radical extension of capital gains tax. Commissioned a study by a group headed by a former finance minister, which recommended a comprehensive tax on all assets, real and intellectual, except of course the family home. The family home is kind of sacrosanct, like the mom and pop store.

So, after a couple of months deliberating, interrupted only by hugging lots of people, the PM announced yesterday that there will be no extension. Not now. Not ever. NEVER! Or at least not while she is PM, which looks like being a very long time indeed. What changed her mind? She was unable to obtain a consensus within the coalition - i.e. one of the minor parties vetoed it. Well, I'm guessing it wasn't the watermelons ( green on the surface but red to the core! ), so that only leaves NZfirst, headed by the old warrior Winston Peters. As usual, he's not saying much, just that it reflects the will of the people and looking very smug, which he is particularly good at.

No doubt it reflects the will of the 7% of the voters who voted for NZfirst. No doubt also there will be a lot of right wing voters who will be mightily relieved at not having to actually tax on their huge profits. Also many bitterly disappointed trade unionists, who thought their time had finally come to put the boot into the filthy capitalist exploiters. Really, it's just democracy as we know it doing it's stuff. Our PM is savvy enough to recognise this and to jump the fence at an early stage, onto the winning side.
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Male Genital Mutilation
Posted:Apr 16, 2019 2:54 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2019 8:14 pm

AKA circumcision. This procedure was almost universal in NZ until about the 1970's and is now almost unknown. I read this morning that a similar change has occurred in Australia and UK but not in USA or Canada. A possible reason given was that surgeons in NZ/Oz/UK are salaried whereas in USA/Canada they are paid per procedure.

I wonder what your views are? Do you regard it as necessary, or optional ( for parents that is- not many babies volunteering I think! ) or abhorrent? Is it justified on medical or religious or social grounds or is it on a par with female genital mutilation as is still practiced in some places?
Posted:Apr 16, 2019 12:32 pm
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2019 12:20 pm
Sitting on my back porch yesterday, there was a crash and scuffle in the citrus trees, and a terrible screech. Oh, the cats have caught something. I went to look in case it was a dove, but no, no cats, a karearea ( a NZ falcon ) shot out of the tree with a mynah bird in it's claws. Like so many native birds, the karearea is quite rare - like so many introduced ones the mynah is a plague, so it was quite nice to see on both counts.

The karearea cry is like a nazgul. Something that should be heard over ruined towers in a cold and misty land, not in the greenery of the NZ bush. Even here it sends shivers down the spine.

NZ used to be a land of birds. The only land mammals even acted like birds and flew around the place being no threat to anything bigger than a medium sized moth. Many birds lost the ability to fly or developed to fill very narrow ecological niches in the bush. With the coming of man and our accompanying rats and dogs and then cats and stoats and pigs and axes and chainsaws, many have died out. From the delicate and beautiful huia which fed exclusively on nectar to the mighty moa which weighed up to 200kg. Also the haast eagle which had a 3m wingspan and could kill moa up to 150kg. Maybe I'm not so sad that one's gone....
Posted:Apr 13, 2019 12:54 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2019 12:07 pm

If alt eats my pic as usual, please come back because I will repost it.
Reality TV?
Posted:Apr 12, 2019 4:14 pm
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2019 12:06 pm

In a recent post I looked what kinds of violence are considered acceptable in books, movies and TV. One kind I didn't consider was where the violence is real. Not just realistic but real. I suppose the ultimate example is the live stream of the Christchurch mosque shootings. Despite it being illegal in NZ ( not sue of other jurisdictions), people are still viewing and sharing this material. Despite social media deleting copies, there are always more out there.

There are other examples, less extreme in various ways. I remember in 2001, watching endless replays of an airliner ploughing into the world trade centre. There are still photos and I presume video all over the net. It seemed less shocking because you couldn't actually see the people dying but I will not watch it now.

On a much smaller scale, there was video on my newspaper site very recently of a gymnast landing badly and breaking both her legs. Well, 's what the headline said. I refused to watch it. Now the gymnast herself has spoken out, with the words "My pain is not your entertainment." I entirely agree. Whether it's mass murder or just people hurting themselves on the funniest home movies show, it should not be our entertainment. Plenty of simulated violence out there if you must watch such things.
Posted:Apr 8, 2019 12:07 pm
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2019 12:04 am

As ANZAC day approaches, the anniversary of the Australia New Zealand Army Corps invasion of Turkey Gallipoli in 1915, I would like to share the following quote:

"Those heroes shed their blood and lost their lives ... you are now lying in the soil of a friendly country. Therefore rest in peace. There is no difference between the Johnnies and the Mehmets to us where they lie side by side in this country of ours. You, the mothers, who sent their sons from far away countries, wipe away your tears. Your sons are now lying in our bosom and are peace. After having lost their lives on this land they have become our sons as well."

Attributed to Mustafa Kamal Ataturk, founder of the Turkish republic, 1934.

Despite the rhetoric from the current Turkish president, Turkey continues to welcome Aussies and Kiwis who visit to commemorate the attack.

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