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Untangling My mind
Posted:Oct 7, 2016 2:22 pm
Last Updated:Jun 9, 2019 2:49 pm
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Fetish Kink Fantasy
Posted:Jun 11, 2019 11:00 am
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2019 10:43 am
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This is a good (in my opinion) explanation:



The term “fetish” is used pretty loosely these days to mean anything really really turns someone on.

But there is an official definition, and here it is…

From Wikipedia.

“Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the sexual arousal a per receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation”

So when the term is used “correctly” it is referencing a sexual need goes far past desire into necessity. For someone to have a clinical fetish per would have to have the fetishized item or situation involved 0% of the time in order to reach sexual arousal and climax.

What people frequently mean when they say fetish, is “kink”. Of course, language is fluid. Everyone works from a different internal dictionary and people might have a variety of experiences of words.

I’ve found “kink” is a more accurate term for most. A good way to look at “having a kink” for something is it’s an item/activity/situation you find deeply, consistently erotic but is not necessary for your enjoyment of a sexual encounter.

Kink is also frequently used as an umbrella term for “the lifestyle” or as a sexual orientation. It can be used to describe a collection of activities (“kinky sex” might include some bondage or spanking, etc) are enjoyed during sexual .

Fantasies consist of the wide world of your erotic imagination. Having a fantasy about something does NOT mean you actually want it to happen in real life, which is one of the magical things about fantasies. In our minds we can explore experiences may not even be possible, but are incredibly arousing to think about.

However using fantasies to fulfill a fetish (or kink!) can be a great compromise when the fetish (or kink!) is difficult or impossible to enact. For example, I’ve known many foot fetishists fantasize about feet while having more traditional sex. This is helpful when one partner isn’t interested in the others fetish (or least not every time) so both can still have a happy sex life.

Bottom line, language and terminology are not worth getting hung up on. We fantasize about our fetishes and fetishize our fantasies. As long as we’re all getting (consensually!) what we need to feel sexually satisfied then ’s what’s important



I have no true fetishes, a few kinks yes, and in truth most of my fantasies have been expirenced.





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Let's Talk
Posted:Jan 30, 2019 8:33 am
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2019 6:50 am
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Happy Half Nek Wednesday, This post isn't on theme... hell can't even say I know what the theme is, but I know its wednesday ~ happy Hump Day everyone~ and it is also
#BellLetsTalk - an initiative by Bell Canada to raise awareness for mental health
people all around us are struggling with some kind of mental disorder, anxiety, depression, loneliness, and it is hard to talk about it for most of us, myself included. I tend to retreat when things bother me, and keep it bottled up inside. I know it's not healthy, but I still do it.

To allow someone like me to talk I truly a active listener, someone who genuinely cares about whats on my mind, I am sure not the only one like this.

So on this LET'S TALK day I want to encourage every one to LISTEN, take an interest and make it possible for that somebody who needs to talk to be heard

and SMILE... it costs nothing but to the right per it is priceless

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Satyr Saturday
Posted:Jan 26, 2019 4:13 pm
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2019 8:33 am
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I hope everyone is having a Grand day.... recharging... relaxing... or even like me, working

I received an email this week with some cute meme's I thought I would share with the blog community

















have an Awesome Weekend everyone
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It’s another beautiful day at the Red Pony Saloon and continual soiree
Posted:Jan 24, 2019 10:32 am
Last Updated:Jan 28, 2019 9:46 am
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"Many people think when they see a bear standing in the forest, it means to run. But the bear is just standing guard, looking to protect those he loves from whatever may come. Henry is a standing bear. And a standing bear will never run, no matter what."

This was a quote from a television show... Longmire.... about one of the main characters

In a way I am like that.... I don't run... I may not confront .... But I am there.... I will protect what is important to me.... quietly standing guard


not a standing bear but only image by Hermang of a bear
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50 WAYS TO MEET YOUR LOVER
Posted:Jan 18, 2019 8:10 am
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2019 8:44 am
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The other day I came across a post regarding the lyrics of Paul Simon's
"50 Ways to Leave Your Lover" .... the g only lists 5 so the OP was looking to complete the list.



The site here is about MEETING not so much leaving so I was thinking of Euphemisms for having sexy, I found this list but have to admit a lot of them I'd never heard



Do you have any favorite terms for doing the deed?
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Overtime
Posted:Jan 15, 2019 11:56 am
Last Updated:Jan 20, 2019 11:01 am
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I was just out of high school working my first full time job, was was a driver, the company had an office in the industrial part of town. I got called out late and had just gotten back into the yard around 10, I had to walk back to my apartment and the route was right by the office. I saw a light on in the bosses 2 floor office As I got closer I could see the occupants, He was kissing his assistant very deeply... by the time I got home ... walking the entire way with a hardon I was hooked on office sex



Other than some role playing I have never had office sex, even with over 20 behind a desk. Even today my thoughts drift to that peak through the window ago and it always gets me going

I no longer work in an office environment so the chances of striking that off the bucket list is low.

Have you ever been less than professional where you work?

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Something New
Posted:Jan 12, 2019 9:18 am
Last Updated:Jan 13, 2019 7:47 am
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it was so new to her... a highly sexual woman stepping into the realm of submission.

It had been a long time since he had let himself feel this way about anyone

Both with doubts.... but feeling a connection that went so much deeper, it surprised them, and excited them beyond their exceptions. A fire was started.



the deep trust that was missing was built upon with desires and exploration of new ideas, they listened to each others inner voices and found a fit with their own



He held her tight.... and softly whispered to her soul



Daddy's Got you babygirl
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The Lucky One
Posted:Jan 8, 2019 8:56 am
Last Updated:Jan 12, 2019 11:33 am
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I've been blessed with my life.
Its not all been a rose garden, I've had my share of thorns. But over all its been good.

One of the greatest blessings has been the people - some for a short bit... some for a life time, and a few who I am still growing with.

The greatest less I have learned are from these people

I have learned trust

I have learned caring

I have learned patience

I have leaned appreciation

And I have learned that the way to a blessed life is

Take what is offered - Give what you can afford

Being kind to others is a kindness to yourself

Love the people who love you and always be there for them
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Sensory Depravation
Posted:Jan 5, 2019 9:22 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2019 11:41 am
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Using blindfolds on my lover excites me.....

the anticipation of where I will first touch her



The thrill of not REALLY know who is in front of her



and lets face it..... I am way more handsome when she is blindfolded


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