My Ideal Person:
I'm looking for a man who is respectful, honest, trustworthy.Someone who is patient enough to teach me how to enjoy those things that have inhibited me and allow me to grow into the one that I can be.

I also need someone who will respect me for who I am when he meets me and not try to change me to what he wants me to be and than want who I was to begin with.That is an Impossible task and someone is bound to get hurt.

Honesty is a two way street.I will always be honest, in fact I've been told I'm honest to a fault.He needs to be as honest as possible with himself let alone his partner, on how much he wants to change/or explore his partner/sub limits,and how willing he is to be responsible for the limits that change in her. I do realize that there are many changes that one can go thru within this lifestyle,and many times what we started out believing we wanted/needed within it changes.I would just hope that once those changes or limits that are explored change that my partner understands that those changes that are made are part of the growth we have shared and not that it is/or has anything to do with being DISHONEST.As trust grows and limits are pushed, the changes within, are changes that one could never dream or expect prior, to it happening.He needs to be understanding of the personal growth and change, as much as he needs/wants to have his partner explore areas that need more trust and respect as the relationship grows.I have found this lifestyle has made me constantly question how willing/how far I would go for my partner.The answer is I will go as far as he takes me/or is willing for me to go for both of us.He is responsible as a Dom to be accepting of the changes in me that he has been apart of.But with saying that, he also has to be partly responsible for the changes within me, for him.There is also an emotional growth that takes place,which I would hope he would be accepting of.I feel that with the depth of trust that is needed there has to be a strong emotional bond to be willing to give of yourself to the extent that is needed most of the time to push yourself past limits you have had for that right person.

It has been brought to my attention that this last section, might be very harsh for even the best of Dom's/Domme's, and my expectations are very high.Thats good in a way, if any feel this is an expection that they could never live up to ,PLEASE than take into consideration that subs shouldnt be expected to either.We live to please/pleasure our Dom's/Domme's, and when we have expectations given to us that are to high for us, it is a situation waiting to fail.Please think twice what you expect out of a sub, so she/he never has to feel like no matter what she/he does to please/pleasure you she/he cant succeed.Just a thought, Thanks.