My Ideal Person:
There are, as it were, two profiles in progress here. I'm open to simple scenes or to far more. It is a matter of how luck and opportunities work out. Should you see anything below that seems to match your desires I hope you'll let me know. While I'm unsure of how to present myself, I'll do my best to be honest with you even if it is to regretfully explain to you why I'm not the person you need.

I'm going to slowly ad to the profile as time permits. It may seem a funny way to put it but one of the things I'll try to share is why you might not want to bother with me. That isn't a lack of self-esteem: my hope is to be ruthlessly honest.

Mascochism
I do enjoy pain. Especially devices like whips and quirts. Canes are harder for me to process. But we tried many things: wooden spoons, the Warternberg pinwheel, clothespins. I believe that I am willing to explore almost anything with a risk aware top. Since I've only experienced S&M with one person I'm sure that at first it will be like learning it all over again.

Power Exchange
I use the most neutral term because I'm trying to keep away from assumptions and stereotypes. While people talk about 'true' ways D/s is performed in many different ways.I'm trying to keep my expectations minimal and open.

I don't call myself a slave because in BDSM people often attach a specific meaning to it. For me slavery is an emotional state that I aspire to. Particularly what I think of as the 'slave trance' when my own will really does seem to vanish. Getting there isn't always easy.

Submission, which I often think of as surrender is something that can make me happy. Strictly speaking impersonal D/s is not something I absolutely rule out. Were a dominant to say that he or she wanted X and expected Y and those things matched my needs I would probably do my best to please.

D/s can include friendship and affection. I think that people tend to continue to be involved / play together longer if either is present. But some seek pure power exchange and nothing else.

Love? The most loaded word in the English language. And very hard to find. I am not looking for it. I will not avoid it.

Ideal Dominant
I'm not looking for that.

I am looking for someone willing to talk, particularly in the early stages. I want to offer myself to more than just a title or role. For lack of a perfect word let me say that I would like to respect the person as an individual. (And, it may seem inappropriate to say this, but I know some novice tops feel various sorts of insecurity. I'm not expecting anyone to overawe me with their awesomeness.)

For now I just expect to roll with the flow and see what possibilities present themselves. Even outside D/s I tend to adapt to what others want.

24/7 TPE / Lifestyle
For me this is a very hot fantasy. But I don't know that I could live it. Maybe someone will one day change my mind. For now all I can say is that I hope to find someone before whom I will be compliant and worshipful when we are together.

Training
My prior relationship was very romantic and BDSM was only a part of it. We seamlessly went in out of of D/s and conventional interaction. Like many bottoms I have training fantasies - particularly of psychological and emotional manipulation - very strict discipline, deprivations designed to induce the desired behavior. But no real experience. I understand that someone that I would be spending time with regularly may want to train me to insure that how I act pleases them.

Protocols
Again only something I know as a fantasy right now. I do understand that specific speech and mannerisms may be expected of me.

Fetishes
Naturally I have one of those checklists. Seems a good way to quickly spot harmonies or incompatabilities.

Service top and topping from the bottom are things too easily tossed about. Letting you know what excites me isn't about making demands. Hopefully it is a way of telling you about things that if you will enjoy them let you know how to get that look on my face you want to see. My desires tend to be things that help me reach surrender, servility. Or maybe something I want will be an interesting way of causing suffering that hadn't come to your mind before. If we share none of these then there's no reason to meet.

What I Need Most of All
At least for more than a random scene. If there is no exchange of thoughts and feelings then there won't really be a possibility of sustained interaction. I want some of what thrills me to thrill you. Except in special circumstances - like exploring my limits - in D/s I have trouble asking for something. If the top doesn't enjoy it there is no pleasure for me.

Prior Relationship

Was with a mtf pre-op transsexual: to me a woman. (My sexuality means I enjoy all genders.) It ended because we were only able to spend three months together at a time followed by months of separation. This was a romance of which BDSM was one component. Though D/s became increasingly important. E.g., she gave me a quick caning when I came home from work so we'd have at least some expression of roles. Increasingly I sat on the floor even if there were no overt power exchange going on (unsurprisingly doing that prompted many submissive gestures from me).
Me On the Web

I founded a small but high quality forum. I have moderately well known personal blog and some other kink themed sites. Two sites have published interviews with me. Sardax recently did an illustration on a short sketch of mine. Please don't see this as any sort of boasting. I'm just trying to give you more context.

To Be Continued
This profile is not yet finished. Feedback and responses, including criticism are welcome.
A relationship of three years has ended by mutual agreement. Having an ocean between us and being able to spend limited time together at last proved too much.

It is my hope to meet a local sadist. Ideally a dominant person but pure S&M can be plenty of fun.

But I'm sensible enough to know that I shouldn't rush right out and pursue a new relationship. I need to make sure that I am ready before I begin. I'm currently thinking that I will wait until after Christmas. That isn't important to me but it consumes many peoples' time. Though I may simply do it as soon as this profile is properly finished.

Not that I don't welcome conversation with local folks of all sorts. (My real thanks to those who have kindly offered feedback.)